Preparation for Life’s Transitions
End of Life Planning & Death doula Services
All human beings are connected through shared human experiences such as birth and death. In both life-changing moments, we approach these events knowing that there are unknowns and uncertainties. I, Tamaru, believe that by acknowledging our mortality and the unknown, we can engage more deeply with one’s life and find peace. As an end of life planner and a death doula, my vision is to bring a holistic care approach and compassion into death and dying, a major life transition. May I be the bridge for where you are now in your situation and where you want to be.
My role varies and may encompass: offering guidance, creating legacies, assisting in logistics and facilitating open conversations about death, grief support allowing individuals and their circle of support to express themselves in a safe environment. Empowering you and those you love to navigate this profound experience with grace and dignity, celebrating lives lived and approaching death without regret.
You matter because you are you, and you matter to the end of your life.
We will do all we can not only to help you die peacefully, but also to live until you die. – Cicely Saunders
Services & preparation
How may i support you?
Organization/ Education
I offer educational sessions about end of life planning and topics related to death, and dying. I work with you to create a Legacy Project.
I offer to help you navigate the medical system, from the moment you receive a diagnosis until death and after. Assisting with logistics such as end of life paperwork, Advanced Directives, and making prearrangement.
Human Touch & Support
I provide human support in a variety of ways; coordinating care, sitting with individuals to offer comfort and companionship in their final moments, giving caregivers respite to recharge, and helping them process their emotions. Being there for the range of experiences around death is important, as it recognizes the complexity of grief.
I believe each person has intrinsic value and has the right to dignity in their transition.
After Death
Assisting you in remembering those you love. Supporting you in times of grief and loss by providing grief support. Helping you wrap up affairs.
Practical matters may involve home funerals, celebration of life and memorial services, or celebrations of life, helping families honor the deceased in meaningful ways. Memory work encourages sharing stories and memories, which aids in processing grief and honoring the deceased.
EMPOWER
Empowering & supporting you
IF YOU ARE:
- Healthy and well
- Have questions about death
- Afraid to talk about death, would rather ignore it
- Ready to think about your end of life
- Ill and dying
- A loved one and or a support person for someone who is dying or has died
- Missing someone who has died, looking for grief support
Curious…
WHAT IS A DEATH DOULA?
I am a death doula certified by Going with Grace. This short summary of the training course explains their outlook.
Going with Grace
Death doulas and end of life planners will play a unique role in today’s society as it prepares to embrace shifting consciousness around dying coupled with a shifting generational dynamic. Using cultural, philosophical, and personal perspectives, students will explore conscious dying as a vehicle for a conscious living while critically examining their own narratives on death and dying.
-Alua Arthur
Learn more about Going with Grace
National End of Life Doula Alliance
End-of-life doulas (EOLDs) provide a broad range of non-medical, holistic support and comfort to those preparing for or experiencing end of life. EOLDs come from a variety of backgrounds and experiences with a shared desire to educate, guide, companion, and assist the dying and their families/carers in myriad ways. People who desire such support may engage with EOLDs as early as initial diagnosis, or as late as the beginning of the active dying phase or even after death, if bereavement care is what they are seeking. Although there is no definitive list of services offered by EOLDs, they generally include several of the following: education and guidance; practical/logistical assistance; emotional, social, and spiritual care–before, during, and after a death. EOLDs may provide informational resources, hands-on comfort measures, respite, facilitation, advocacy, and many other services. Not all EOLDs offer the same modalities or expertise; if an individual or family desires services that they cannot or do not provide, the EOLD endeavors to make referrals and help locate needed resources. Above all, EOLDs seek to help those dying and their loved ones achieve an end-of-life experience that is as meaningful, peaceful, and well-prepared as possible for all involved.
Learn more about the National End of Life Doula Alliance
FAQs
How are the death doula sessions conducted?
Our sessions are conducted in person and online via secure video or phone call, ensuring convenience and accessibility for clients. In person sessions are available for those who live in Northern Virginia and the surrounding DMV area.
What is End of Life planning?
I work with you to assist you to complete end of life paperwork and planning. In preparing for death before a crisis occurs, this gives opportunity for your wishes to be honored and clearly communicated. I can assist you with Advanced Directives, … To be clear I am not a lawyer.
What does a death doula do?
I listed a few of these parameters here. As a death doula I am here to assist and be of service to you. I will assist you in navigating and preparing for one’s death, organizing paperwork, coordinating comfort care, listening to and honoring end of life wishes, memorial services and after death considerations.
How much does it cost?
My fees vary based on your needs, services and duration. For detailed pricing and packages, please contact me directly for a tailored quote.
How do I start this process?
To start working with me, ‘Connect with me’ and schedule an initial consultation to discuss your goals, answer any questions, and determine the best plan tailored to your needs.
Who can benefit?
Anyone seeking to address concerns and fears around death and dying. Anyone thinking about making preparations for their death. Anyone who is still processing their grief. This not only helps those immediately affected, but can also help anyone with concerns, which may liberate bandwidth to address other priorities and live with presence.
Dignified Departures 